what do you want

Who’s in control of your actions? Are the decisions you make a reflection of what you truly want to do?

For the vast majority of us, it’s the influence of other people – friends, family, colleagues, role models etc. This is for the sole reason that we have been thought to operate in this manner from young. We were taught that feeling accepted was important, and that when we “listened to what others said”, we were good. Our education system taught us the importance of strength in numbers, not to want to be singled out from the crowd, and we learnt that so well that as adults, the sheep mentality followed us.  

There’s an adage that goes - 

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”  – Oscar Wilde

We are afraid of being called a “let down” just because we are different. We crave people’s approval and attention like a basic need. Most of us even live unhappily because we spend so much time living out our lives as if it were that of another person - we impoverish our own existence to get our own constant fix of approval.

All this, despite the fact that most of us also crave freedom, despite seeking the approval of others. In the end, it all boils down to one question – do you genuinely want to be carefree and pull your own strings, or do you want the approval of others.

If you choose to be approved by others, take note that in the end, everyone has their own agendas and mostly care only about themself more than they care about you. Therefore, before you go all out to please someone, weigh carefully whether this is to your benefit or to theirs. Because, if we try to live constantly the way others want us to live, we will constantly make consents which, may not be to the best of our own interests and personal development. And in the end, you do not want to wake up one day thinking – damn … I have not lived a life I wanted…

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